The Differences Between What Men and Women Want from Each Other Goes Beyond the Obvious
There’s a lot of differences between men and women. Anyone with working eyes can attest to that pretty easily. But what a lot of people don’t realize is that these differences go far beneath surface superficiality. To be sure, that does factor in. But even obvious differences such as size tend to play into things in different ways than one might expect. It all comes out into something that everyone’s familiar with, the battle of the sexes. The name sounds a bit more conflict heavy than many people would be comfortable with. But in truth, that’s a reality that people really can’t escape from. People are among the most civilized beings to ever walk the land or sail the seas. But just because humanity is civilized now doesn’t mean that it’s always been that way.
Look at anyone who’s gone a day or two without food and the hunger will be clear in his eyes. And the same becomes equally true of men and women who are deprived of the equally primal forces hidden within their mating instincts. A human being who can’t eat or mate won’t pass on any genes. This ensures that every generation is born from people who are touch with those drives on some level.
But this connection takes different forms in men and women. Again, size is the most obvious factor when just looking at appearance. Men tend to be tall and have more upper body strength. Women tend to be shorter and have comparatively weaker muscle strength. Even when men and women have comparable lower body mass the man will usually be able to outperform the woman to some extent. This might seem to put women at a big disadvantage at first. But what their bodies lack in muscle, they gain in sex appeal.
A woman’s smaller frame tends to influence her choices of strategy when dealing with the world. On top of that, women tend to have a far more focused sex drive. For men quality certainly matters. But they’re a lot more fickle with their attention. Women tend to be more naturally choosy about who they settle down with. A woman’s lower muscle strength tends to push her to decisions involving working on herself rather than her environment. This pushes her advantages in attraction even higher than it would naturally be. The end effect is that a woman will tend to have multiple men eager to win her interest. As such, she doesn’t really need muscle. She’s able to essentially have her own physical strength and that of multiple suitors all at once.
This highlights one of the biggest secrets of the war between the sexes. Gender is the general laying the plan. And that is a war between men and women. But it’s usually more about men fighting against men and women fighting against women. Any man will usually be befuddled to hear women talking about the fact that they’re not trying to look good for other men. And it’s true, most men won’t notice something as small as colored nails or a new piece of jewelry. Other women do notice though, and their own relation to that woman changes as a result. Intimidating women pushes them out of the public space and gives her access to the higher quality men. Likewise, a man who works hard at the gym might be doing it to attract women’s attention. But it’s more in the sense of being able to measure up better to other men and get noticed. This is also where some of the ideas around commonly used terms like alpha and beta come up. An alpha male pairs up with an alpha female. They’re proving themselves the best. Not just with their own choices but in the way that they push competition down so that potential partners don’t notice them.
It’s also important to remember that this instinctive once never ends. People’s minds can settle on that one special someone and decide to spend their lives with them. But in the back of their minds there’s always an instinctive drive to find the best possible mate. This happens with both men and women, and ignoring it is one of the biggest issues with both marriage and long term relationships. People tend to get into the idea of settling. They stop pushing themselves, and eventually their perceived status among other men and other women can drop. They become confident in the fact that they’re attractive to their partner no matter what. But in reality it’s not just a fight with the opposite sex. It’s a fight with one’s own sex to get the most attention from the opposite sex. And this is where people tend to stumble. It’s nothing wrong with one’s partner or with oneself if interest lags. It’s just a natural response to changing roles and overall attractiveness. The secret to a good relationship with someone of the opposite sex is to simply concentrate on being the best man or woman that one can be. And for someone to find a partner dedicated to keeping up that same battle to keep themselves as attractive as possible.